tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post2571838481834965484..comments2023-05-14T15:57:31.207+00:00Comments on The mogs blog, the meanderings of a cat through yarn and life: 3rd annual Brigid in Cyberspace poetry reading, cancer and friends+ yarn arrives.ambermoghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09336045464678882082noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-64056878248063273982008-01-31T02:24:00.000+00:002008-01-31T02:24:00.000+00:00Amber, 18 years ago my brother went through cancer...Amber, 18 years ago my brother went through cancer. One of the many things that I walked away with was what he said and how he felt. He said that he felt people stayed away from him because they were afraid they would "catch" his cancer from him. His friends and coworkers didn't come around, even people from church didn't come arond. But family was ALWAYS there. Over the years, I have found an AWESOME organization ChemoAngels.com and they hook up a total stranger, and Angel, with a patient. And the Angel sends cards, notes, letters and gifts the whole while the person is going through treatment. I have been with the group over 6 years now and I have lost many and a few have graduated and each graduate (a survivor) will always, always mention how much they appreciated just feeling normal for the few minutes the card, note, letter or gift gave to them while they were at their worst.<BR/><BR/>I guess what I am trying to say is that people just don't know what to say or do, those who haven't been through cancer, so they feel not doing anything is the easiest,,,,for them.<BR/><BR/>I'll be thinking of the two of you as many other will, keep knitting.cmmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09535222311594759462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-20598392876730566712008-01-31T01:14:00.000+00:002008-01-31T01:14:00.000+00:00I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing some s...I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing some support issues with some of your close friends. Know that your friends/contacts through blogland are with you all the way! I know in my line of work, that when people don't call or talk there is usually an element of "I don't know quite how to express my thoughts/feelings so maybe it's best if I don't say anything so I don't screw it up..." I don't know if that is true in their case, but maybe... Hope you enjoy your day :)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08678435402263634357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-21546200237070659852008-01-30T22:54:00.000+00:002008-01-30T22:54:00.000+00:00I thought about this withdrawal and I came to conc...I thought about this withdrawal and I came to conclusion that maybe people disappear because they feel too helpless to do anything... Still, it's important to stick around to give some support, even just to mark our presence "in case". In case of happy or sad moments that need to be shared. <BR/>I'm sending my warmest thoughts to you both!Brahdelthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01398391384785892127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-19371731115047004502008-01-30T16:41:00.000+00:002008-01-30T16:41:00.000+00:00Some people don't 'do' illness of any type. I fou...Some people don't 'do' illness of any type. I found that out when I was going through my cancer journey last year. I found that the best way was to acknowledge it, smile and thank those people for the time that they had spent with you in the past. Then walk away with no feelings of hurt or regret. You and Mr Mog have enough to think about without spending precious energy on people who are not going to be able to support you both. Save your time and be as selfish as you need. This is possibly one of may positive aspects of cancer, although you might not realise it at the time.Priestess~Harperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13017123641438398933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-60852716527917516902008-01-30T11:56:00.000+00:002008-01-30T11:56:00.000+00:00Don't ever feel you have to apologise for expressi...Don't ever feel you have to apologise for expressing your feelings on the blog. That's the great thing about "virtual" friends - they can choose to visit and leave again without you knowing they were there, and say something or nothing . Real life friends may feel under pressure to say... something, anything, becuse to say nothing would be awful. And so many people don't know what to say in the face of mortality. FL's children have all been conspicuous by their lack of contact since I told them his diagnosis. Which is very hard for him, and therefore for me. At least FL has me, just as Mr Mog has you. I am just immersing myself in being everything kind and loving and happy and positve-thinking for him while he is still around. And trying not to think about what it will be like when he is gone. Denial takes many forms I suppose. Thanks for this post, Amber.Roobeedoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02395340950409421904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-57502674449949654412008-01-30T08:37:00.000+00:002008-01-30T08:37:00.000+00:00That's a shame, but sometimes people struggle with...That's a shame, but sometimes people struggle with the concept of a friend being ill as much as you will right now. They don't always know how to deal with it, and whether you want them around or not. Don't blame them too much if they don't contact you in the same way they used to - they might think you want time and space.<BR/><BR/>On a cheerier note - show us the socks! :) I look forward to tomorrow's post.<BR/><BR/>Big hugs<BR/>xBryony Ramsdenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15696119078928576812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-56237995599590309102008-01-30T08:18:00.000+00:002008-01-30T08:18:00.000+00:00It could all be compounded by the time of year and...It could all be compounded by the time of year and this awful weather. I really feel like hibernating most days. I never used to feel the urge to stay in by the fire so strongly, so it could be age too (Shock! Horror!) You have hoards of friends watching/ visiting you through your blog. I look forward to checking in to see what's new. So there are lots of us out here thinking about you both. Hope that's come out right. Hugs to you both. xx xx xxCrobbleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15314002748497535994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-76842649266926206342008-01-29T20:11:00.000+00:002008-01-29T20:11:00.000+00:00Sorry to hear things are so hard; sending good tho...Sorry to hear things are so hard; sending good thoughtsSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00149251009285628796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-88851202179817892932008-01-29T20:01:00.000+00:002008-01-29T20:01:00.000+00:00What a gorgeous and generous whack of yarn!....sig...What a gorgeous and generous whack of yarn!<BR/><BR/>....sigh.... I'm sorry to hear that some of your friends have been shieing away. We just found out a friend of ours has been diagnosed with cancer, and although we really do keep to home most of the time we'll be making time to go and visit with him, for sure.<BR/>You and Mr. Mog are in my thoughts, every.single.day. and a continuous stream of soothing and healing energy is always flowing your way.Mariannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01500636360349398921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-202552945998750982008-01-29T18:21:00.000+00:002008-01-29T18:21:00.000+00:00Dearest Amber, we're all still here, we're all hol...Dearest Amber, we're all still here, we're all holding you and Mr. Mog in our thoughts constantly. Never doubt that for a moment.<BR/><BR/>And just how do you propose to knit so many pairs of socks? Dear heaven, aren't people wonderfully generous? I think you'd better join Sock Madness. It might help with the progress - a bit of pushing along, you know?<BR/><BR/>Love and strength from Ireland (where we'll be celebrating Imbolc too, and special candles lit for both you and Mr. Mog).Jo at Celtic Memory Yarnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00463172440388610300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-84010729024388824512008-01-29T18:19:00.000+00:002008-01-29T18:19:00.000+00:00Having the support of friends and family is an imp...Having the support of friends and family is an important part of surviving any ordeal. Sorry you haven't been feeling the love. Blessings to you and Mr. Mog. I've started to notice the days getting longer here in the Pacific Northwest. Imbolc is nearly here and I am so glad! Though we've never met, I'll be thinking of you both as I light a candle for Brigid this Imbolc.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07650631003552125835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9885571.post-72319194068339276162008-01-29T18:08:00.000+00:002008-01-29T18:08:00.000+00:00I have only just began to read your blog so I don'...I have only just began to read your blog so I don't really "know" you, but I am sorry to hear how your friends have been with regard to the cancer. Maybe it is a not knowing how to deal with it/ scared of loss thing? Who knows. Have you got enough sock yarn? Email me if not. xLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13730130796826375503noreply@blogger.com